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3 key ways Arizona families can overcome the stigma of addiction

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According to the United States National Survey on Drug Use and Health, nearly 50 million Americans suffer from substance use disorder, yet only one in four receive treatment.

Lost in this statistic is the financial, emotional and physical collateral damage to families. 

Addiction, the most severe form of substance use disorder, is an issue that impacts millions of people, both directly and indirectly, yet it continues to be surrounded by guilt and shame for families and their loved ones.

I was one of those individuals. I tried to accept the reality of my two sons who went down this path; however, guilt and shame surrounding addiction prevents open conversations and reinforces feelings of isolation.

When my wife and I initially tried to talk to friends and others in our social network, we were met with questions such as “what do you think you did wrong,” and some even felt the need to say, “that would never happen in our family.” This only drove us further into despair and loneliness. By substituting judgment for unconditional support, we create an environment that is compassionate to struggles and encourages treatment.

Reduce judgement and create conversation

The American Medical Association classified alcoholism as an illness in 1956 and addiction as a disease nearly 50 years ago in 1987. Yet, misinformation and judgment persist, preventing many from seeking help. Further, families feel alone and without hope as they don’t have a community of people to tell that they are struggling. If we can talk openly about addiction, individuals can work toward healing without fear of social repercussions, seek treatment and create a support system that ensures lasting recovery.

When society makes discussions about addiction common, it also makes more people aware of early addiction warning signs and helps to identify the red flags associated with addiction. This is important as early intervention is the key to reducing long-term impacts.

Set boundaries with an individual facing addiction

Establishing boundaries with the person experiencing addiction can prevent enabling behavior that might perpetuate their dangerous lifestyle choices. If a relative or friend ignores destructive behaviors, it may be harder for someone to see the consequences of the same action later. With clear boundaries, there is a structure to help prevent people experiencing addiction from falling into old patterns.

Boundaries can also help lessen resentment by having realistic expectations. Without boundaries, loved ones may feel overwhelmed by the totality of their loved one’s situation.  However, clear relational guidelines allow everyone to feel respected and heard.

No matter the structure of one’s relationship, it is essential to have boundaries communicated with empathy and respect. The goal is not to abandon or cut off any communication unless that is necessary for safety or health reasons. The goal is to unconditionally support treatment, recovery and restoration of health.

Reach out for local resources

Reaching out for local addiction resources, like treatment centers and therapists, can provide critical guidance and tools for a successful path to recovery. Other options include support groups like Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous, Celebrate Recovery and many others. While everyone should consult a professional to create a lasting treatment plan, support groups will help reduce isolation and combat the stigma of addiction.

However, resources don’t just have to be for the individual — there are also resources for family members. For example, Parents of Addicted Loved Ones has local and national support groups for anyone feeling the impact of addiction. In fact, groups such as PAL can help bring hope and healing to families as they navigate the road of addiction.

Research indicates that when the family responds in healthier ways, they have tremendous influence over their loved ones seeking the help they need. Today, my sons celebrate over a decade of recovery, which we credit to the support we received from PAL and professionals who did not judge us. I find that when I share my story, people immediately share theirs, knowing it’s safe to do so.

Overcoming the stigma of addiction by communicating with those closest to you can create an environment of support and empathy, allowing many to get the support they need. As a society, we can shift the narrative from blame to empathy and realize that we all know someone who is suffering.

Editor’s note: Kim Humphrey is CEO/executive director of Phoenix-based nonprofit Parents of Addicted Loved Ones. Please send your comments to AzOpinions@iniusa.org. We are committed to publishing a wide variety of reader opinions, as long as they meet our Civility Guidelines.

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